In our tips for the month of February, we discussed the value of friends and family. There
is no greater wealth and strong, healthy relationships with a wide circle of friends. The tips in March are a logical
next step, as you must keep in touch with those friends and family.
With our very mobile world, we find that our friends and family, may be at a great distance even if just
temporarily. This may occur, because we are the ones who have left home and hearth so to speak. Either way, it
is essential that you keep in touch. There are so many convenient methods open to us today and because of new phone
calling plans and the internet, these methods are not only convenient but inexpensive.
In short, there is simply no good reason for not staying in touch! It has become so routine so quickly
that we forget how recent the cell phone picture technology has made it possible to shoot excellent quality pictures across
the world in seconds either to another cell phone or to an email address. Thus there is no excuse, now, is there?
This begs the question, why don't you communicate more often?
Surely, we can anticipate your response: "Just too busy!" Oh, really? And, what is it that takes up all of
your time? There are many right answers, but analyze them and be true to yourself. Is much of that time being
wasted? A major culprit is the television. Stop to think about how much time you spend watching television.
Perhaps you could use a little of that time to send a note to a friend.
Okay, we have said that an email or text message may be acceptable. However, it is no substitute for
a well composed letter. Stretch your language mussels and see what you can say and how effectively you can say it.
Words properly and carefully put together in sentences and paragraphs can convey deep emotions. They can create mind
pictures, they can sooth, stimulate emotion and inspire. Give it a shot. You will be surprised how satisfying
it will be to see your thoughts and inner self expressed beautifully in the written word.
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Write a letter
to a friend that you have lost track of but whose friendship was important to you at one time. Make it a short hello
and avoid the temptation to tell everything that has happened to you since the last contact. Just say hi, and let them
pick up from there if they are interested in renewing the acquaintance.
selecting your stationery don't be tempted by patterns or pictures. These detract from the words and can cause confusion
to the reader. You will want to select something that will always be appropriate whether you are accepting an invitation
or sending solemn condolences.
assemble your stationery wardrobe as it is an investment in your future. Just as a lady carefully assembles her clothing
wardrobe to be tasteful, versatile and expressive of her unique personality, she will create a stationery wardrobe that will
be distinctive. People will enjoy receiving a letter from you and the paper upon which it is written will help convey
stationery should be distinctive so that someone receiving it will know immediately that it came from you.
The style called "informal note" will be the basis for your stationery
wardrobe. This convenient size can satisfy every need except a long personal letter.
For your personal letters, use a "half sheet".
The half-sheet requires a different size envelope from the "informal note".
There are many styles of monogram available. It is now time for you to select something that you will
be proud to use on all of your stationery. Start by thinking about the color ink you will be using. Your monogram
should compliment your ink whether you use a pen or computer printer.
Now that you have decided
on the color you will need to select the style of monogram that best reflects the image you wish to convey. You can
use your initials or just the first letter of your last name. Alternatively, there are many elaborate monograms or "lozenges"
available from your stationery supplier. By the way, in this case a lozenge is not a cough drop. It is a rectangular,
decorative monogram. They can be very distinctive and dramatic.
If you are married, you may want two monograms. One for your own personal correspondence
and one for you and your husband combined.
You will now need to decide whether you want to use engraving, thermography or flat printing on your stationery
Your address is placed on the back flap of the envelope. Use the same color
and style you have used for your monogram. However, it is crucial that the address be legible.
If you use your initials on your stationery, the correct form for a married women is first name, maiden
name and married name. For example, it would be Mary Smith Jenkins. A single woman uses her first, middle and
last name. That would be Mary Kay Smith in our example.
Calling Cards are a nice addition to your writing
papers wardrobe. If you are building your wardrobe gradually over time, designing calling cards would be something you
do in phase two or three. You might be surprised to learn that is is inappropriate to use your business card in a social
setting. However, it is increasingly difficult to separate our business life from our personal life and women are beginning
to understand the importance of "networking". So, if this is a business contact it just makes sense that you
would use your business card. However, having a supply of tastefully designed personal calling cards or
social business cards gives you the opportunity to decide which card is aappropriate for the occasion. For example,
if you are attending a function hosted by your husband's office and meet someone that you wish to follow up with socially,
you would probably want to use your personal calling card with your home phone number rather than your business card.
On the other hand, perhaps you determine that this is a suitable business contact and you want a follow up phone call at your
office. This is a perfect occasion for the personal business card. We will talk tomorrow about how to design a useful
personal calling card.
Let's begin to design your personal
calling card. There are many varieties available and you may wish to do something a little more dramatic than you have
with your other personal papers. For example, you could use a color card stock rather than the white or ecru that is
traditional for you stationery. Also, you can have it printed in either a horizontal or vertical orientation.
It may be important at this point to distinguish between the calling card and the social business
card. Though similar, these are two different items. The calling card is 2 7/8" x 2" if you
are single and 3 1/8" x 2 1/4" if you are married. If you wish to have one for you and your husband
together the size is 3 3/8" x 2 1/2". This joint card for you and your husband is very useful as
it can also be used as a gift enclosure card. It comes with a dainty but serviceable envelope and makes an impressive impact.
The social business card,
by contrast, is 3 1/2" x 2" and looks just like a business card. Over the next several days, our
hints will help you decide which of these options will best suit your needs.
It is unlikely that you will need both a social business card and a personal calling card.
The social business card will have only your name and your work contact phone number. It does not show your title or the name
of your company
The calling card will show your name and title, Mrs. Edward Paul Smith, III for
example. If it is to be a joint card with your husband, it would say Mr. and Mrs. Edward Paul Smith, III. The
address goes in the lower right corner.
The design of
your envelopes should compliment the style of your other papers. Thus, the envelope paper should match your stationery.
Once again, there is unlimited variety in font and ink color available. If you have selected a very formal monogram
you will need a formal style fond for the printed/engraved
address on your envelopes. However, remember the the return address must be clearly readable. Do not sacrifice legibility
in order to get a flowery font. Not only does this serve as the return address in case there is a problem in delivering the
letter, it will also provide an address where the receiver can contact you.
It is appropriate to include your name along with the return address on the flap of the envelope, however, this will
limit the use of the envelope to your correspondence only. If you have just the mailing address on the flap, the same
envelope could be used by your husband or other members of the family.
a follow up to yesterday's tip, there is a style called house stationery. It is personalized to reflect
the house but not a particular person. Any member of your family can use the house stationery or it can be used by a
house guest. Again, this is a practical reason to put only the street address on the flap of your envelope.
of these tips for your personal writing papers may seem a bit old fashioned but you will find that your wrting papers convey
a very important message about who you are and what people can expect from you.
Tastefully designed writing papers are very distinctive. Your envelopes and the
documents contained within will stand out when people receive them. They command attention among the otherwise mundane
and mass produced pieces of mail received each day. Isn't this your goal? If you take the the time to compose
and send a letter or invitation don't you want it to stand out? Don't you want it to reflect your personality?
A hasty note scribbled on notebook paper and stuffed into an envelope will do none of the above.
if you invest the effort to send something in the mail, you are trying to accomplish something. That something could
be a positive response to an invitation; to convey gratitude for some kindness; to express sympathy over a loss; or to keep
in touch and stimulate the receiver to do likewise. So, as in any deliberate endeavor, do everything possible to get
the greatest return on your investment.
The exercise we have directed you through
over the past month does more than help you design your personal writing papers, it has helped you begin to develop an image
of yourself. Admit it, aren't you more sure of who you are than when the month started.
on your newly defined self image and re-evaluate your mental choices of the personal writing papers. Do your choices
accurately reflect who you are? Do they accurately reflect how you want people to "see" you.
ancient wisdom about first impressions continues to hold true. Further, first impressions can be enhanced or reinforced with
a follow up note on lovely, good quality, personalized writing paper. If your writing papers reflect confidence and
sophistication you may be offered opportunities that either wouldn't come your way or would come your way much later.
Here is a post script prompted
by one of of our emails...No, an email is not a "tacky" replacement for a thank you note. Any expression of
gratitude is much appreciated by the recipient. In today's rapid communications, an email is very appropriate, very prompt
and completely proper. So once again..thanks for the email! Best regards, Lady Virginia
notice that our topic for April is
Thus, we will continue to help you
build your understanding of who you are,
how you would like others to see you and
how to accomplish this goal.